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We Remember. Transgender Day of Remembrance. An Organizer's Tool Kit.



Across the world, trans people are being excluded from jobs, turned away by doctors, funneled into prisons, and left to die by the side of the road. They are not slipping through the cracks: Indifference, hatred, and violence are actively forcing them down through the gaps in our social safety nets, our health care systems, and the legal systems of citizenship by which our societies determine whose lives matter.

I urge us all to raise our voices in allyship, to not simply wring our hands and mourn the dead, but to demand change, to work for real results that can make a real difference in this world, to face the hard and inconvenient problems of privilege and intersectionality, to not make the deaths that we are commemorating cheap.

We must also use this as a call to action to educate and raise awareness of the need to stop the violence perpetuated against all transgender people but particularly those of color, including in our own communities of color.

During Kaddish take a moment to reflect on those transgender people who have so courageously dug their wells and shared their source of living water with us. Let those lives and wells be an inspiration to YOU to pick up your shovel and start digging.

Too often the “T” of LGBT is more of an afterthought than anything else. Our gay and faith communities must communicate through actions, if not explicitly in our words that our trans siblings cannot be ignored.

The overwhelmingly vast majority of trans* dead are Black and Latina trans* women whose least shitty choice was work in dangerous parts of the sex industry and/or who were coerced by structures of trafficking/prostitution.

On Transgender Day of Remembrance I hope that we do more than just honor those who were brutally killed. I hope each of you find the courage to tell your story to start making the kind of church that honors and welcomes those weary travelers with dust on their feet from the hard road of self-discovery.

For the next few days, I hoped that [they] would rise up and call for immediately action in finding Victoria’s murderer... Day after day, the papers were silent. Day after day, the LGB community was silent. Day after day, the discussion... was... about her “true” gender.

I also knew the horror stories of trans people who had been “found out,” then beaten or killed. I avoided attending Transgender Day of Remembrance vigils; it was too close to home, too real.

I declare to you tonight that we, we who may be identified as cis-gender, transgender, multi-gender, mixed gender, we are all in the likeness of our Creator.

Parashat Vayetzei -- Surely God is in This Place: A d'var Torah for Transgender Day of Remembrance by Vanessa "Vinny" Prell (2007). 7 Kislev 5768. Genesis 28:10-32:3.

Remember those whose voices were silenced, whose lives were cut short. Let the transgender community know that while everyone else may have forgotten, you will not allow our dead to remain a secret.

For Transgender Day of Remembrance 2011, Janet Mock reflects on never forgetting where you've been.

Reflecting on the Church's responsibility to speak out against violence against gender variant people (includes a YouTube video outlining a month of anti-trans violence).

A transgender day of remembrance presentation that urges us to consider the way transfolks live and die with complex identities and vulnerabilities.

On November 20, the Transgender Day of Remembrance, I embrace my transgender brothers and sisters in an adopted family in an adopted land and I acknowledge what it means to be part of a diverse social fabric.

As I prepare for the Thanksgiving holiday, I am reminded of the autumnal harvest time's spiritual significance. As a time of connectedness, I pause to acknowledge what I have to be thankful for. But I also reflect on the holiday as a time of remembrance—historical and familial.

The problem is that most people don’t have someone to remember. So here is what I wish people would remember; that in the western world, no other group has a higher murder rate than transgender individuals. And t-women usually aren’t murdered, they are lynched.

Even now, after going through hundreds of cases -- each a death that should not have happened -- I find myself appalled yet again at the barbarism that some people face at the hand of anti-transgender violence. (2007)

We are a community in which each one of us has had a friend, family member, or lover who has been a target of violence. We are a community of people aware that someone close to us will, in the future, be in fear for their lives, be hurt, possibly even murdered.

They were able, with a struggle, but able nonetheless, to get the education, the therapy, the surgery, the employment, the treatment, the relationship, the sacred space of church or temple or synagogue that allowed them to speak truth. Many others aren’t so blessed.

I was filled with wonder in the way God created us...I know both sexes are God's image...and that what is masculine and feminine, male and female, come from one source which is God.


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